“Wisdom is knowing what to do; Virtue is doing it.” ~ David Jordan, scientist
At the very heart of Maslow’s famous Hierarchy of Needs pyramid, between security and self-esteem, is our need to belong. I believe it is one of the most dominant and dangerous needs of them all, when you consider how many people are willing to suppress, compromise, or even sacrifice their own values, beliefs and ultimate virtue for the sake of belonging.
When I first began my career as a financial advisor back in the early 90’s, I joined every organization I could think of as a way to meet people and “get in play”. I had already been President of the Sugar Loaf Community Foundation. I joined the Chester Kiwanis, Leadership Orange, the Orange County Chamber of Commerce, and the Orange County Citizens Foundation just to name a few. It made perfect “win-win” sense to me at first. Developing relationships through civic volunteering and networking was good for both community and business! At least, that’s what I believed back then…Good Sunday Morning Dear Friend.
For the Sake of Belonging
Now, twenty years later, I’m not so sure. Now I am able to step back and observe what twenty years of belonging has done to the community I thought I was strengthening. It’s almost as if the entire community is wearing the same exact shock collars we put on our dogs to keep them from wandering outside the invisible fences, to keep us all within the invisible walls of Political Correctness. Inside the walls we become insinuated “racists” for complimenting someone for their hard work because it is offensive to the ancestors of cotton-picking slaves…and no one says a word! The Leadership Programs and Chambers became “feeders” to the local non-for-profit and government agencies looking for “the right kind of person (sheep)” resulting in a Stepford-Wife-like interconnected culture of look-alike, sound-alike, think-alike robots to form the ideal petri dish for the worst germs of human nature to breed like mold behind the walls of the super-sleazy, ultra-corrupt New York pay-to-play slime pit!
Twenty years was all it took to create an army of mindless ventriloquist dummies singing the gospel of sustainability, green energy, smart growth, with equality and “social justice for all (unless of course you happen to be a Christian), while turning a blind eye to the daily atrocities committed by their political-class masters on the other side of the wall!
Somehow, in America…today…the land of the once-free and home of a shriveling brave minority, the words Conservative and Belong don’t belong in the same sentence. Especially in New York, as the Progressive Governor recently reminded us all. In fact, Conservatives simply need not apply! And God help you if you attempt to belong in most schools and college campuses, as a Conservative student!
The Moral of the Story
The moral of the story is simple. We depart this life exactly as we enter it…100% alone! What happens in between is one great big final exam! In the Maslow pyramid illustrated at the beginning of this chapter, Belonging appears next to Love. Jesus taught in parables for good reason…To belong in the name of love is one thing. To belong at the expense of love, honor, courage and integrity is another entirely. This is the vortex in the mother of all twisters funneling humanity in its most critical hour. What fool would give up the book for the sake of a period? Choose wisely Dear Friend…
So let’s think a little deeper. We already know how important the sense of belonging is to us. According to Maslow, it is more important than our own self-esteem! WOW, that’s major league important to be sure! So what is it about belonging that is as compelling as it is appealing to us in such a powerful way? Isn’t belonging almost aphrodisiac in the way it brings the feeling of validation? We are social animals who have been motivated by a primal and innate desire to be “in with the in-crowd” for as long as we can remember! So, conversely, when we find ourselves on the outs, and rejected by the in-crowd, it can be psychologically devastating for most of us.
Now for the bad news. Do you remember how vicious and mean kids were in school to the poor kid who didn’t fit in for some, usually silly reason? Well, magnify the viciousness and mean index times 10 to understand how those who step outside the PC boundaries are dealt with today! Today, the lucky ones are merely scolded for saying, “He’s a hard worker!” The not-so-lucky pay exorbitant fines and lose their bakery business for refusing to bake a cake for the same-sex-marriage in violation of their Christian faith, while the Muslim truck driver is awarded $240,000 in a lawsuit after refusing to deliver alcohol for the very same reason! Worse yet…imagine your 7th grader coming home in tears because his teacher told him he would fail him UNLESS he denied that God exists!!! In the New World, we see, parents demoted to powerless minority stake-holders in the Common Core
education indoctrination of their own children. The teacher who violated the 7th grader’s 1st Amendment Rights will be rewarded, just as Lois Lerner of the IRS was promoted and cleared after lying under oath to Congress for using her office to target Conservatives, and Clinton is given a pass on Benghazi!
Naturally, in this environment, the need to belong (and survive) will trump the desire to speak out in defense of one’s beliefs, if and when his or her beliefs violate the acceptable norms dictated by Political Correctness…without giving the slightest thought to where these new social laws originated! In fact, the need to belong is so powerful that many of us will actually sit in silence while friends and family members are persecuted, fined, jailed or worse for standing up and following their own conscience instead of “the crowd”…an action considered virtuous not so long ago.
Oh yes…the moral of the story. Well hopefully by now, or soon enough, the moral of the story will be obvious. The moral of the story is you can either pay-to-play, or you walk away. You can sell your soul to belong to the club where your soul is exactly the cost of admission…OR, you un-belong yourself so fast, the wind from the vacuum you leave in your wake will suck the toupees of every bobble-head-belonger within a 50 mile radius! Behold the fate of a world in which too many of us refused to speak out and stand up when we had the chance. See the world through the eyes of those who have become cattle because WE chose belonging to the herd over believing in the word!
Learn exactly how it happened here https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EjaBpVzOohs in only 22 minutes! “For what profit is it to a man if he gains the whole world, and loses his own soul? Or what will a man give (or belong to) in exchange for his soul?” ~ Matthew 16:26